Money Red Flags to Watch for When You're Dating (Ep 123)
Money talk on a third date? We're saying why the hell not?
In this episode of Mind + Money, Sherry (financial coach) and Val (financial planner) dig into one of the most avoided conversations in dating: money. They walk through what financial red flags and green flags actually look like when you're getting to know someone new, and why waiting until things get "serious" often means waiting too long.
Sherry and Val cover:
What counts as a real financial deal breaker, and why you need to know yours before you're ever on a first date
How to ask questions about money that come from curiosity, not interrogation
Why someone's financial mindset (scarcity vs. growth) can matter more than their actual bank balance
How past money trauma from a previous relationship can show up in a new one, and how to tell the difference between a bad day and a genuine red flag
What it looks like to talk about debt honestly, including how to bring it up and how to react when someone brings it up to you
How to build shared finance systems, whether that's fully joint, fully separate, or a "yours, mine, ours" split, that actually work (especially for ADHD brains)
Why regular money dates matter more than any one big conversation
This episode is for anyone dating right now, anyone in a newer relationship figuring out how to talk about money, or anyone who's ever avoided a money conversation because it felt too awkward to bring up. Sherry and Val share real examples from their own relationships and their work with clients to help you figure out what's actually a deal breaker versus what's just a difference you can work through together.
If you've ever wished you'd had this conversation sooner in a past relationship, or you're currently dating and not sure how to bring any of this up, this episode gives you the language and the confidence to start.
